Wednesday, May 4, 2011

PYHO momma crazy is about done


Put a fork in me, I'm done, probably burnt, actually, so maybe I just need to be fed to the dogs ;)

That son of mine, he's driving me batty, I swear. Four weeks of high school left and he's on the verge of not graduating. I've done everything in my power and then some to convince him of how important it is. I've given myself to him, physically, emotionally, financially, I have nothing left to give. So, I'm done. He can graduate or not, his choice. We have already bought everything, the ring (which he lost), the invites, the cap & gown, the only thing we don't have is pictures and he doesn't want them, so I haven't decided yet what I'm going to do there. The prom dress has been bought for his girlfriend, his tux has been paid for and picked up, prom is this weekend. IF by some chance, he is eligible for graduation, it's a simple matter of sticking the mailing labels on the envelopes and mailing the invites, if he doesn't, they'll sit in the box until I can bare to throw them away.

When can a mom say enough? When can she say I've done the best I could and I'm done?

I hope it's now, because I've had enough and I'm done.

I graduated already, with a baby, this is for him to do, not me.

15 comments:

  1. Let him do it, mama! You've done your job!

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  2. AGREED! It's all we can do. And ohhhhhh HOW I understand. We are just at sophomore right now... but I feel your pain. Same child, losing different things and not having a care in the world. {{Hugs}}

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  3. Oh, bless you. My people are still small enough that I sign their homework every night but I dread the day that I'm in your shoes. You can only do what you think is best. {{hugs}} to you!!

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  4. This is a tough thing to post about. You are brave. It's good to see a parent allow their child to take responsibility for his choices. I hope I am so brave.

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  5. I can only imagine how hard this must be. Mine are too small and I know that it's hard letting them do the smallest things on their own. Stay strong in the knowledge that you have done your best!

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  6. Oh my!I was just clicking through the pour your heart out posts and had to stop for a minute because I thought I wrote this one. We are in the same boat. Will she, won't she. If I try to talk to her about what is going on she throws it back at me that I'm not supportive and don't believe in her. I feel ya sister, and now I'm off to find that follow button!

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  7. We're living a parallel life. My daughter has just two weeks 'til graduation and it's iffy as to whether or not she'll pass her Civics class. Just one blasted class and she's still not turning in homework. Ugh!

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  8. Hang in there girly. I know it's frustrating, but I think you're right and it is time to let him accept the consquences of his actions. As important as graduation is- if he has to go to summer school or do credit recovery than so be it. I know you'll be disappointed but I venture to guess he will be to when he doesn't walk w/his class. Good luck!

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  9. Oh I feel for you! But you are right it is now up to him. I will have everything crossed that he makes the right decisions.

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  10. Yes, yes, yes. Right there with you too. Granted, ours will be graduating (small miracle considering how late we found out that he failed one of his classes!), but the not turning in homework has killed his GPA. We've been on him for 5 years...and still we've battled.

    And you're right. It's his deal now. I offer you hugs, mama!!

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  11. OH sweetheart ... you've done your very very best and all you can do now is hope that he makes the right decision. But that is his decision to make. No matter how disappointing it may turn out to be.
    ((HUGS)) I love you!!

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  12. oh wow. How frustrating and exhausting!! I hope he gets he act together.....it is so hard to let them make mistakes. My mom and I are going through the same thing with my little sister!

    ~Annie of AnniesHeart.com

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  13. Whew, I feel for you. This is so darn frustrating because they just don't seem to get it that you are not trying to get down on them. You are just trying to bring them up and give them the best in life. My sister did this to us and you could actually see a remnant of the asterisk next to her name that had not been completely whited out in the program. She did graduate, but her bad choices only got worse from them. I wish you much better luck with your son.

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  14. I think it takes a wise and brave person to know when it is time to let go and let life take its course. Here is hoping for the best.

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  15. Oh, that is so hard when you have to let kids make their own decisions! I already struggle with a 5-year old, and am dreading the older issues!

    Hope he figures it out soon...

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